Monday 29 February 2016

Do we need Men?


Men are not really need for both reproduction and parenting.  Women are not just becoming men's equals.  It’s increasingly clear that “mankind” itself is a gross misnomer: an uninterrupted, intimate and essential maternal connection defines our species.

The behaviour of mammals is how we bear and raise our young, 20% of our life span is the legal responsibility of our parents.

Meaning of mammals
  1. a warm-blooded vertebrate animal of a class that is distinguished by the possession of hair or fur, females that secrete milk for the nourishment of the young, and (typically) the birth of live young.

Artificial Insemination in CattleOur choices in reproduction are expanding.  Women can reproduce without men.  The data on females raising children alone is encouraging.  It’s poverty that hurts children, not the number or gender of parents.

This is good, because its women that are both necessary and sufficient for reproduction.  Men are not.  


From the production of the first cell (egg) to the development of the foetus and the birth and breast-feeding of the child, fathers can be absent. They can be at work, at home, in prison or at war, living or dead.

Women body produces the egg that starts life.  She is the one to carry the baby for nine months.  The man part of conception only takes a few minutes of his time, and then he leaves......

The women are bonded to her baby as she breast feeds her baby. Even if she does not breast feed, and bottle feeds, it’s the women that take care of the baby mostly.  Rarely or seldom does the man share this with the woman?


A woman can have a baby without a man; she needs to secure sperm from a donor (living or dead).  The technology the self-impregnating woman needs is a straw or turkey baster, and the basic technique has not changed much since.   If all the men on earth died tonight, the species could continue on frozen sperm. If the women disappear, it’s extinction.

Ultimately the question is, does “mankind” really need men? With human cloning technology, just around the corner, and enough frozen sperm in the world to already populate many generations.

It’s true that men have traditionally been the breadwinners. But women more and more are becoming the bread winners, gaining better educations, and their numbers are growing. Men divorce their wives and the women are left to take care of the children, they are forced to be the head of the family, they are forced to be the breadwinners.  There are lots of divorced fathers out there that divorce their own kids, when they divorce their wives.  As a result their children are left without a father to raise them.  I don't care, for whatever reason the father is not there.  If the father is worth anything as a human being, he will do everything in his power to make sure, that his children don't grow up not knowing their fathers.  Take the single mother, the man knocks her up and decides to run for it.  The man does not need to marry her, just make sure that he helps provide for his kids.  Be a father to these kids.  

Men are raised by their mothers to be "mama" boys; this is not a good thing. Boys and girls are no different, only in the way their mother has raised them, which make men, into insecure people who are then incapable of taking care of a family.  Mothers have a lot to answer too, with how they raise their boys.

Society has dictated that men should be the one that takes care of his family, be the head of the household. Wife and children must respect these men, they are the back bone of the family, well, and that’s how it should be. This rarely ever happens.  Provide for their every need, but when a man has emotionally baggage that he carries from his childhood, he is more inclined to abandon his family and start all over again.  Raising a family is no picnic in the park and it requires a lot of hard work, both from the mother and father!

I know from my own experience, my mother taught us to respect our father.  My mother never disagreed with my father in public.  Discussion was never held in front of us.  Discussion where held in the privacy of their bedroom.  My mother opinion with my father counted very much with my father.  It was not that he was the head of the family, and she the wife, and must obey every command.  They really had a very good marriage. As a father my father was not very good at it.  He left my mother to raise us.  My father was always too busy to spend time with us.  It was like not even having a father.

I am a single parent, the father of my children never acknowledge his children.  My children grew up without their father.  I am lucky that they turned out to well-adjusted adults.  He provided hardly any financial support for them; I had to battle on my own!!

Interesting fact

The geneticist J. Craig Venter showed that the entire genetic material of an organism can be synthesized by a machine and then put into what he called an “artificial cell.” This was actually a bit of press-release hyperbole: Mr Venter started with a fully functional cell, and then swapped out its DNA. In doing so, he unwittingly demonstrated that the female component of sexual reproduction, the egg cell, cannot be manufactured, but the male can.

Sunday 28 February 2016

7 Types of Commitment Phobes



    The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns. Commitment phobia is somethinge often and happens to both women and men. The key piece is fear. Fear of intimacy and deep emotional connection.


    Men that have difficulty in committing have similar characteristics and ways of expressing their phobias. It can be very devastating to the woman who love them




The Unconscious Commitment Phobe
Its the most common phobia.  The guy believes that he wants commitment and love.  He becomes his worst enemy, sabotaging anything food that comes his way. What he does not realize is that perfection is impossible and while there are always other prospective love matches around the corner, they are usually no better or worse than the woman he has right in front of him.







The Conscious Commitment Phobe
He knows that he is putting on an act.  He really enjoys the woman that he is involved with. but he has not intentions of staying with.  He rather places his bet on the one that opens her lets first.  He knows that he is not fit to commit and remains single rather than making a chose.
 The conscious Commitment Phobe can sometimes be honest about his fears, making him respectable.







The Married Phobe
He loves the challenge of a chase.  He cheats on his wife.  Does not communicated with her and shuts her out.  He cannot look her directly in the eye.  The Married Phobe can drive his wife up a wall for years with his pushing, pulling, cheating, shutting down and walling off. Worse yet, on the other side of the Married Phobe is the "other woman," who waits for him to leave his wife, sometimes for decades. This guy simply can't commit to committing one way or another.






The Long Distance Phobe
He is good at long distance relationships.  They enjoy having two lives, one with you and the other with someone else who may be reading this. Never quite trusting his own inherent instincts and feelings, the Long Distance Phobe has difficulty with decision-making. Therefore, he would rather have two lives in case one doesn't work out or he gets bored. The woman who is far away is usually the secondary character in this guy's love life.  He either promises to visit or he wants her to visit him, but he rather keep the long distance relationship.



The Dating Site Phobe
After months of coercion from your friends to "get out there," you reluctantly sign up on the hippest new dating site, create a profile page and upload your cutest photo, all the while gripping a bottle of merlot. Swipe left, swipe right...it actually seems fun at first!
After a hot minute, an attractive man hits you up and comments on your eyes, hair or the fact that you have a cute little dog names Josh. Willing to look past his ridiculously perverse profile and the long drive, you holler back with a quick quip. You get along famously and things go from texting to sexting to questioning to disappearing.
After a few weeks, you pack up your imaginary children and wonder if this guy was married, a compulsive liar, an egomaniac or all of the above.
I'm a commitment phobe, I refuse to change that because I will just get hurt again.
The Multi-Phobe
The Multi-Phobe is like the Don Juan of Commitment Phobes having a posse of women from which to choose. He is usually the one who never becomes "Facebook official." He will simply lie about why he keeps his status a secret saying, "it's silly" or "I don't want to hurt my ex's feelings." When a woman discovers that she has been involved with this type, she usually convinces herself that what they had was real and the others were simply secondary characters in their relationship. The truth is that the Multi-Phobe has a "no
 discrimination" policy and it's first come first serve.




The Instant Phobe
This guy is the one who is already mentally packing his bags right as he approaches you during last call. If we are aware, we can look back and see tiny snap shots of a faster than lightening affair off in the distance. This type of Commitment Phobe is like a bowl of sunshine. He is the one-night-stand from the bar, the guy you talked to the entire night at your best friend's wedding or the charming man you made out with in the bathroom at the club on Saturday night. Okay, so some of this was your fault.





No matter what type, walking away from the Commitment Phobe, is usually a wake up call for them.

Saturday 27 February 2016

People are individuals but are not unique?




Image result for the internetWhat is the Internet?




a global computer network providing a variety of information and communication facilities, consisting of interconnected networks using standardized communication protocols.






search
Have a look at the internet, type something in the search engine and you will find what you are looking for. Either negative of positive, there are people before us that have put their thoughts down, expressed the same thinking as you.  Some people think that they are the only ones that think or feel in a certain way, but this is not true.



We are individuals but we are not unique.  When having a discussion with a friend, the friend is positive that he is right and you are wrong.  Go on the internet and you will find results both in favour of your friend and yourself.

For example :  Different sides to the coin, using positive punishment and negative punishment.  Neither of them is wrong. Just different ways of approaching the problem, what method would be more likely to work?

What is Positive Punishment:
Positive punishment works by presenting a negative consequence after an undesired behavior is exhibited, making the behavior less likely to happen in the future. 



What is Negative Punishment:
Negative punishment happens when a certain desired stimulus/item is removed after a particular undesired behavior is exhibited, resulting in the behavior happening less often in the future. 

Understanding what a "individual" should be ......

What is an IndividualImage result for individual
Individual - Meaning a person who acts in the way they want to and is not bound by the sad rules of soceity, live life forifilling goals for their self-esteem. These people do not conform to the 'masses' and are therefore swarn enemy to the common Townie etc... An individual has their 'own' mind and seeks enlightenment through completing personal tasks set by themselves and are not influenced by someone elses opinion simply because they are 'popular'.  They dress how they want to dress, listen to what they want to listen to and do what they want to do and normally people respect that. An individual hates to be labeled.

People might be individuals but they are not unique as they act like sheep.

People really do act like sheep
If a ​group of people are (like) sheep, they all ​behave in the same way or all behave as they are told, and cannot or will not act individually or be individuals in the true sense of the word.

What's more unpleasant to see than the herd spirit in humans? The manipulation led to the stage when humans behave like dumb sheep. Many times you may have wondered what the hell you were doing or how the heck you had got amongst a gang of seemingly idiots.


The majority of people act like sheep, they seem not to be able to think for themselves and do what is know how to them.  They are neither individuals and they differently are not unique.  To be unique ..... is to think outside the box, think for yourself and found other answers and solutions, it might surprise you, that everything could change, become a whole lot better.


Thinking outside the box
Meaning - Think creatively, unimpeded by orthodox or conventional constraints.

'Think outside the box' originated in the USA in the late 1960s/early 1970s.

"We must step back and see if the solutions to our problems lie outside the box."
eliminate anyone who tries to stop you from thinking outside the box
The 'box', with its implication of rigidity and squareness, symbolises constrained and unimaginative thinking. This is in contrast to the open and unrestricted 'out of the box' or 'blue-sky' thinking. 

The encouragement to look for solutions from outside our usual thinking patterns was championed in the UK by Edward De Bono, the psychologist and inventor, who coined the term Lateral Thinking in 1967 and went on to develop it as a method of structured creativity.

Thinking outside the box would mean that you cast off the atmosphere that envelops you, step out of the box, leave all your experiences, mindsets and attitudes behind and start to view things from a completely different perspective: outside of the box; unfiltered, unbiased, open for suggestions, willing to empathize with others opinions, but also ready to swim against the flood and to think what no one else has ever thought of. It also means that you leave everything behind you thought you would know, everything that was thought to you in school and start to approach specific situations and problems from a completely different point of view than you did before.


Thinking outside the box, makes the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people!

Be Unique!!!


Successful People And Unsuccessful People
There is always a clear cut difference between the successful and the unsuccessful. The difference in habits and decisions give birth to what is either being talked about or what is not. Adjusting and aligning your thoughts with successful people will start to have a profound effect on how people see you. It will also help in understanding the daily habits that successful people use to fine tune their values and standards.

To define the actions of successful people, John Paul De Joria, the billionaire behind brand names such as Paul Michell hair products and Patron tequila, explains what a ‘successful’ person is: “Successful people do all the things that unsuccessful people don’t want to do.”

Success has elements attached to it from hard work, determination and perseverance. It goes beyond the desire to be successful and reaches in to taking action to make a difference. 
To think outside the box!



Successful 1



A Promise of Success
by Michael Sage

Ones potential is so huge, and so vast,
Yet, why is it, that so many fail, and usually come last?,
So few truly succeed, that when they do, others are jealous and totally aghast,
Let’s all believe in success, and I promise that failure will be part of the past.

The things you think, and the things you believe,
If they are true, then those are the things that you will achieve,
But if your thoughts are false, or they are used to deceive,
You’ll be stabbed in the back, and that is a promise that you had better believe.

Get rid of depression, worry and fear,
Because success is so often so very, very near,
Tell your subconscious , “success is mine”, and tell it to hear,
Remind it often, then success will be yours, that is a promise, my dear.

Just ask the “DIVINE”, for whatever you desire,
For happiness or abundance, or anything else to which you aspire,
It’s now time to succeed, so go ahead, set your goals, and light that fire,
Do it with passion, and I promise you this, you’ll soar higher and higher.



Problems with Commitments? Being in a relationship ?scared of being single forever? Fear of marriage?

Commitment -  there are several different types of commitment phobias

Commitment Phobia
Anuptaphobia 
Gamophobia


Commitment phobia - is a very painful experience both for the one who engages in the pattern and for those who are involved with that person. Usually the art of pushing and pulling and seduction are the domain of the commitment “phobe.” The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns.


The Causes of Commitment Phobia

The causes of commitment phobia varies.  People with commitment issues have complained about poor romantic relationships, wither first-hand or through observing their parents.
Other common causes of commitment phobia may include:

  • Fear of, or having had, the relationship end without notice or signs
  • Fear of not being in the “right” relationship
  • Fear of, or having been in, an unhealthy relationship (characterized by abandonment, infidelity, abuse, etc.)
  • Trust issues because of past hurts by those close to the person
  • Childhood trauma or abuse
  • Unmet childhood needs or attachment issues
  • Complicated family dynamics while growing up

True commitment phobia is fear of any kind of commitment that involves other people, not just relationship commitment. It can involve difficulties making important decisions in all areas of life but folks with commitment phobia need not be afraid of committing to things that do not involve other people. They may have no problem buying a house or a car or getting a dog. Their fear usually is connected with making a promise to another person.

Falling in love with a person with commitment phobia can be a nightmare. Watch out for signs of commitment phobia before you find yourself hopelessly in love with someone who is not capable of having a relationship. A person with commitment phobia need not display every one of the following symptoms but the more symptoms he or she displays the more likely it is that he or she suffers from the condition.

1. Their past relationships are all short and/or very noncommittal
If your beau has never been married and has had a series of short relationships despite not being all that young, then he or she probably is not likely to commit to a long term relationship in the future either. It’s also a red flag if your romantic encounter has had long relationships but these relationships didn’t involve any serious commitment on his or her part.

2. They are not willing to commit to dates or nights out weeks in advance
Making plans for the future that are not strictly required is a major cause of fear for someone who suffers from commitment phobia. He or she will prefer to make same-day plans or commit only a few days in advance.

3. They are not letting you know whether they are attending your party
Just as a person with commitment phobia will be afraid of agreeing to dates several days or week in advance, he or she will also have difficulties saying "yes" to a party or meeting, unless this is strictly required of them. They may say that they might come to your party or even that they probably will be there. But they will prefer not to say with certainty that they can make it.

4. They use a lot of modifiers when speaking
If you listen carefully, you will hear them use ‘probably’, ‘maybe’, ‘probably not’, ‘I might’, ‘I might not’ and the like much more than other people. If asked when they will be home from work, they won’t say they will be home by 5. Instead they will say that they probably will be home by 5.

5. They are sexually active, perhaps even promiscuous
People with commitment phobia have a need for intimacy like everyone else. But their need is not getting met by being close to another human being. To compensate for this, they may be very sexually active, sometimes bordering promiscuous.

6. Most of their relationships are undefined
If you are in a relationship with a person with commitment phobia, you most likely will not have had any significant conversations with him or her about your relationship. You may find yourself not knowing what kind of relationship you have, despite having been with him or her for several years.

7. They don't say the L-word
People with commitment phobia have difficulties expressing their feelings. They may even be afraid of having feelings. So they are not likely to say that they love you and also mean it

8. They don't like to use the words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend"
If your love interest is very commitment phobic, even the relatively innocent words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" will signify more commitment than they are capable of. They may simply avoid talking about the status of your relationship, or they may offer some lame excuse for why they don't want to use these labels.

9. They don't have a whole lot of close friends
They may know a lot of people. They may even call them friends. But they don't have many really close buddies. There is most likely no one in their life they can talk to about everything.

10. They are unpredictable
You never know quite how your love interest will behave or what kind of mood they will be in. One day they may be really sweet and seem almost normal and the next day they may avoid you altogether. Their behavior never ceases to surprise you.



Anuptaphobia - The fear of being or staying single. You know, like, forever.  Medically defined as “a morbid fear of staying or remaining single,” Anuptaphobia is not your run-of-the-mill phobia, and it’s safe to say we’re living through an epidemic.

The Causes of Anuptaphobia

An entire generation has succumbed to the condition and the symptoms have been running rampant through cities and rural towns alike. Accomplished women and men have been falling one by one to this recently named phobia and even the strong aren’t safe.

Specialists have confirmed that this condition is part of a social phobia that can be traced back to a triggering event from childhood or a traumatic incident. It’s a psychological condition brought on by numerous factors, yet I think it’s safe to say we’ve contaminated our own water.

A generation bathed in social media, we’ve created a culture that doesn’t support relationships, yet still holds the antiquated expectations of marriage. We’re living in our parents’ past, but are redefining a new dating future. We can’t feel whole without another person, but also don’t know how to be together.

Women and men, but especially women, are self-diagnosing themselves as they lie in their empty beds, their right fingers stiff and gnawed from swiping, their eyes shot from too many seasons of “How I Met Your Mother.” Capable and smart singles are walking around as empty shells, feeling worthless and defeated.

The worst part about the condition is that men and women waste their lives letting it control them. They live quietly under its reign, refusing to believe they they can have happy lives without it.

They can’t see that they can be happy alone, that marriage isn’t something they should worry about. They are hindered by the phobia that this single status will be there forever.

You have this disease, but this disease doesn’t have to control you. But before you can treat yourself in bouts of therapy, you must first properly diagnose yourself.
Staying in relationships that don’t work

You have a tendency to try and push things that should be left alone. You go for men and women not because they’re right, but because they’re there. You settle for relationships and people because you’d rather settle now than strive for something later.

You are so deathly terrified of being on your own that you’ll stay with someone you don’t even like.
Obsessively thinking about marriage, love and future

Your mind is constantly preoccupied with antiquated notions of “the perfect life” and “happily ever after” that you don’t even see how good your real life is. You obsess over things beyond your control, creating delusions and fantasies of a life even cartoons don’t properly achieve.

You forget to look around you and enjoy the moments because you’re constantly obsessing over the wrong ones. Your future husband or wife is never going to find you if you’re too busy creating fake ones.
Feelings of inadequacy

You feel painfully incomplete. You feel as if you’re walking around with a gaping wound, the other half of you missing. You are not completely present when people talk to you because you feel you have nothing good to offer.

You created paranoid delusions in your head. You think that because you are single, you are worthless.

Because you are alone, you have nothing to offer. Yet what you don’t realize is your inadequacy is all in your head. People in relationships look at you in awe of your single status, and if you just started to appreciate it the way others envied it, you’d see how great it is to be alive and just living for yourself.
Inability to spend time alone

You get worked up when you are by yourself for too long. You never understood the idea of enjoying your own company and would rather die before living in an apartment by yourself. You fill your company with friends you don’t even like and have sex that’s so bad it should be illegal.

You don’t want to get used to your own company because you never want to have to rely on it. You figure that if you avoid ever getting to the point at which you enjoy spending time alone, you’ll never have to fall back on it.
Overanalyzing absolutely everything

Whether it’s a text, a chance encounter or a situation that doesn’t even involve you, you have a tendency to overanalyze the sh*t out of it. Down to the single letter, you look for ways to take the tiniest thing and turn it into something it’s not.

You spend minutes, days and weeks overanalyzing strings of words that usually are as empty as the person sending them.

Gamophobia - Fear of Commitment Phobia – GamophobiaGamophobia is the fear of commitment, though it can also be the excessive, persistent, uncontrollable and irrational fear of marriage. It is derived from the Greek word Gamos which means marriage and phobos meaning fear

The Causes of Gamophobia

One main reason for fearing marriage is individual observation. An individual can very much observe negative aspects in his or her parent’s marriage that can include abuse or physical violence.

Such experience can turn very obsessive. It can become thought consuming & all negative facets of a marriage can build up into a picture that suggests that marriages are not a good thing.

So, even if you want to get married, the negative thoughts about it are so overwhelming that you develop gamophobia.

While some aspects suggest that marriage can remain good the phobic response forces one to stay away from marriage for good. Gamophobia causes internal conflict & problems that can remain for a lifetime.

Symptoms of Gamophobia

The list of signs and symptoms mentioned in various sources for Gamophobia includes the 9 symptoms listed below:

Irrational fear
Feeling of panic
Feeling of terror
Feeling of dread
Rapid heartbeat
Shortness of breath
Trembling

Gamophobia Treatment

A number of effective treatments can help gamophobes overcome their fears. But, gaining awareness about the healthy sides of a marriage through proper gamophobia treatment plays an important role in reducing anxiety about marriage.

Taking help of a professional therapist can give you a good insight & understanding about yourself and exploring the reasons that keep you from tying the knot.


The fear often has underlying reasons it requires an experienced therapist to identify the root cause. This will let you to make out why you had false assumptions about marriage and real picture of what a marriage really is.

Thursday 25 February 2016

My kitten




I have adopted a kitten.  I was watering the garden nearly two weeks ago, on a Sunday, when I heard this kitten crying.  I found a very wet kitten.  The kittens eyes had just opened, roughly putting the kitten at two week old.  I bought a kit from the vets, which consisted on a bottle, three teats, 3 packets of substitute milk powder and a measuring spoon.  

The kitten is going on for three weeks now.  He can stand now, which according to how they develop, he should be around four weeks old.  The kitten cannot eliminate.  The kitten can purr, so that confirms that he is differently three weeks old. 

The development of a kitten is predictable, all kittens show similar milestones throughout their first year.


Week One
A new born kitten is tiny.  The eyes and ear canals have have not opened.  The umbilical cord stump is still attached to the stomach.  She cannot move about much.  The kitten does not have teeth.

The mother's immunity is shared through the colostrum the the mother produces 24 to 48 hours before producing milk.  This immunity will help keep the kitten healthy.

The mother cat stays close to her new born kittens and keep the kittens warm.  She bathes them and massages their bellies with her tongue to help them urinate and defecate.  The digestive system is not working at this point.

The kitten will weigh an average of about three and one half ounces and will probably double the weight by the end of the week.  The kitten's umbilical cord stub will fall of early in the second week.


Week Two

During week two, the kitten's eyes will begin to open and will be completely open by the end of this week. Her eyes will start out blue and may remain blue for several weeks before turning to the permanent color. Although her eyes are open, your kitten does not see very well, the kitten vision is blurry.


Week Three
The mother no longer needs to massage the kitten's belly to help the kitten eliminate.  The kitten starts purring in week three.

Although the ear canals will be completely open by the end of this week, the kitten's hearing is still developing. The ears will stand up and the kitten may be startled by loud sounds. She may also be more interested in where an interesting sound is coming from.

The kitten's baby teeth have started to come in, and this prepares her to eat solid food.


Week Four

The kitten may attempt to walk. She will explore her environment and interact with her litter
mates. By the end of the week, she will romp and play in between naps and nursing.

Week Five
At this point, it will be almost impossible to contain the energetic ball of fur. She will spend time playing with her littermates and learning more about her surroundings. This is a good time to socialize the kitten and get her used to being handled by humans.
Start the kitten on canned food this week. Ensure that the food is formulated specifically for kittens and be patient. While she may begin to eat canned food, the kitten still needs to nurse and is not ready to be weaned.
This is the time to introduce the kitten to the litter box. For safety's sake use an all natural litter, not clumping clay litters. Use a shallow box lid and a few inches of litter until the kitten is 
accustomed to using the box.

Week Six
It's time for the kitten to receive her first set of vaccines and be wormed. Your kitten will enjoy having toys to bat around and play with. She continues to grow and become more independent.

Development from Week Seven Through Twelve

Week Seven - The weaning process continues as the kitten eats more canned food. This is a good time to introduce a scratching post to allow her to get used to the idea of using a post rather than the furniture.
Week Eight - The kitten's teeth are fully in place, and they are a sharp as needles. She will probably be weaned during this week or next. It is time for the second worming treatment.

Week Nine - By the end of this week, your kitten will weigh close to three pounds. Her eyes will be their adult hue, and she will need her next set of vaccinations.

Week Ten - The kitten is ready to begin her life away from her mother.

During the rest of the first year, the stages of kitten development will not be so dramatic. Changes will happen slowly and surely. The kitten will continue to grow and learn to socialize with you. She will hone her hunting skills on unsuspecting pieces of paper and socks. She will learn to be part of your family, and that is the most important development of all.






        





































Everything has a reason and a purpose

God created the world, everything has a reason and a purpose. Every being in the universe depends on every other thing and every other being for their existence.

Image result for learn how to see. realize that everything connects to everything elseInterconnectedness is part of the terminology of a world view which sees a oneness in all things. A similar term, interdependence, is sometimes used instead, although there are slightly different connotations.






“The Tao gives birth to One.
One gives birth to yin and yang.
Yin and yang give birth to all things…
The complete whole is the complete whole.
So also is any part the complete whole…
But forget about understanding and harmonizing and making all things one. The universe is already a harmonious oneness; just realize it.”








When you look at things and people, what do you see?  Do you think that things are disconnected from you?
Do you ridicule people that say that all life is one life?
Physics has proven that indeed that all life is indeed one life.That all that exist on earth is connect to each other.

For thousand of years, sages, mystics, philosophers, and poets from all cultures have understood that the entire universe is a whole and living unity, which means that all things are connected. Nothing is separate. Everything is interlinked. 


Interconnectedness and the Ecosystem

What is an Ecosystem?
An ecosystem includes all of the living things (plants, animals and organisms) in a given area, interacting with each other, and also with their non-living environments (weather, earth, sun, soil, climate, atmosphere). 

In an ecosystem, each organism has its' own niche, or role to play.

A small puddle at the back of your home. There are all sorts of living things, from microorganisms, to insects and plants. These depend on non-living things like water, sunlight, turbulence in the puddle, temperature, atmospheric pressure and even nutrients in the water for life. 


Usually, biotic members of an ecosystem, together with their abiotics factors depend on each other. This means the absence of one member, or one abiotic factor can affect all parties of the ecosystem.

The food chain
Food webA food chain is the sequence of who eats whom in a biological community (an ecosystem) to obtain nutrition. A food chain starts with the primary energy source, usually the sun or boiling-hot deep sea vents. The next link in the chain is an organism that make its own food from the primary energy source -- an example is photosynthetic plants that make their own food from sunlight (using a process called photosynthesis) and chemosynthetic bacteria that make their food energy from chemicals in hydrothermal vents. These are called autotrophs or primary producers.
Next come organisms that eat the autotrophs; these organisms are called herbivores or primary consumers -- an example is a rabbit that eats grass.
The next link in the chain is animals that eat herbivores - these are called secondary consumers -- an example is a snake that eat rabbits.
In turn, these animals are eaten by larger predators -- an example is an owl that eats snakes.
The tertiary consumers are are eaten by quaternary consumers -- an example is a hawk that eats owls. Each food chain end with a top predator, and animal with no natural enemies (like an alligator, hawk, or polar bear).
The arrows in a food chain show the flow of energy, from the sun or hydrothermal vent to a top predator. As the energy flows from organism to organism, energy is lost at each step. A network of many food chains is called a food web.
Trophic Levels:
The trophic level of an organism is the position it holds in a food chain.
  1. Primary producers (organisms that make their own food from sunlight and/or chemical energy from deep sea vents) are the base of every food chain - these organisms are called autotrophs.
  2. Primary consumers are animals that eat primary producers; they are also called herbivores (plant-eaters).
  3. Secondary consumers eat primary consumers. They are carnivores (meat-eaters) and omnivores (animals that eat both animals and plants).
  4. Tertiary consumers eat secondary consumers.
  5. Quaternary consumers eat tertiary consumers.
  6. Food chains "end" with top predators, animals that have little or no natural enemies.

The food web
When any organism dies, it is eventually eaten by detrivores (like vultures, worms and crabs) and broken down by decomposers (mostly bacteria and fungi), and the exchange of energy continues. Some organisms' position in the food chain can vary as their diet differs. For example, when a bear eats berries, the bear is functioning as a primary consumer. When a bear eats a plant-eating rodent, the bear is functioning as a secondary consumer. When the bear eats salmon, the bear is functioning as a tertiary consumer (this is because salmon is a secondary consumer, since salmon eat herring that eat zooplankton that eat phytoplankton, that make their own energy from sunlight). Think about how people's place in the food chain varies - often within a single meal.


Food webNumbers of Organisms:
In any food web, energy is lost each time one organism eats another. Because of this, there have to be many more plants than there are plant-eaters. There are more autotrophs than heterotrophs, and more plant-eaters than meat-eaters. Although there is intense competition between animals, there is also an interdependence. When one species goes extinct, it can affect an entire chain of other species and have unpredictable consequences.
Equilibrium
As the number of carnivores in a community increases, they eat more and more of the herbivores, decreasing the herbivore population. It then becomes harder and harder for the carnivores to find herbivores to eat, and the population of carnivores decreases. In this way, the carnivores and herbivores stay in a relatively stable equilibrium, each limiting the other's population. A similar equilibrium exists between plants and plant-eaters.


Interconnectedness and biodiversity

What is biodiversity?
The Ministry of Environment defines biodiversity as "character and interconnection."

"Character" in biodiversity means the diversity/differences among various life forms. There are three levels: 

The first level is the diversity in ecosystem. This refers to the diversity of ecological systems such as forests (natural or man-made), wetlands, rivers, coral reefs, etc.

The second level is the diversity in species. On Earth, there exist as many as 30 million different species of life forms. 

The third level is the diversity in genes. Each individual within the same species has different genes. All life forms evolved over the course of four billion years - a process of adaptation to various environments. Each individual has developed different genes specific to its adaptability characteristics - characteristics such as resistance to dry climate, hot climate, or resistance to local diseases, and so on. Just as every human being has different features like face, height, or personality, every individual life form, even of the same species, has different characteristics depending on where it lives

The fact of the matter is that every life form is able to survive only in the context of its interconnection with other life forms, a web in which every life form plays a role.

For example, there used to be a flightless bird called the dodo on Mauritius Island in the Indian Ocean. When human beings began to settle on the island, they overhunted the dodo for food, and the bird, unaccustomed to any predators and unable to fly away for safety, became extinct in no time at all. Then something abnormal happened to the vegetation of the island. The tambalacoque tree, which had its seeds germinated by being passed through the digestive tracts of the dodo, went almost extinct. Some insects and microorganisms that lived only in this tree followed its fate. This example clearly demonstrates that the survival of one species is connected to survival of another


Interconnectedness according to Buddhism

"When we realize the extent of the myriad interconnections which link us to all other life, we realize that our existence only becomes meaningful through interaction with, and in relation to, others."

Buddhism teaches that all life is interrelated. Through the concept of "dependent origination," it holds that nothing exists in isolation, independent of other life. The Japanese term for dependent origination is engi, literally "arising in relation."

 In other words, all beings and phenomena exist or occur only because of their relationship with other beings or phenomena. Everything in the world comes into existence in response to causes and conditions. Nothing can exist in absolute independence of other things or arise of its own accord.

Shakyamuni used the image of two bundles of reeds leaning against each other to explain this deep interconnectedness. He described how the two bundles of reeds can remain standing as long as they lean against each other. In the same way, because this exists, that exists, and because that exists, this exists. If one of the two bundles is removed, then the other will fall. Similarly, without this existence, that cannot exist, and without that existence, this cannot exist.

More specifically, Buddhism teaches that our lives are constantly developing in a dynamic way, in a synergy of the internal causes within our own life (our personality, experiences, outlook on life and so on) and the external conditions and relations around us. Each individual existence contributes to creating the environment which sustains all other existences. All things, mutually supportive and related, form a living cosmos, a single living whole.

When we realize the extent of the myriad interconnections which link us to all other life, we realize that our existence only becomes meaningful through interaction with, and in relation to, others. By engaging ourselves with others, our identity is developed, established and enhanced. We then understand that it is impossible to build our own happiness on the unhappiness of others. We also see that our constructive actions affect the world around us. And, as Nichiren wrote, "If you light a lamp for another, your own way will be lit."
There is an intimate mutual interconnection in the web of nature, in the relationship between humankind and its environment--and also between the individual and society, parents and children, husband and wife.

If as individuals we can embrace the view that "because of that, this exists," or, in other words, "because of that person, I can develop," then we need never experience pointless conflicts in human relations. In the case of a young married woman, for instance, her present existence is in relation to her husband and mother-in-law, regardless of what sort of people they may be. Someone who realizes this can turn everything, both good and bad, into an impetus for personal growth.

Buddhism teaches that we "choose" the family and circumstances into which we are born in order to learn and grow and to be able to fulfill our unique role and respective mission in life.
On a deeper level, we are connected and related not just to those physically close to us, but to every living being. If we can realize this, feelings of loneliness and isolation, which cause so much suffering, begin to vanish, as we realize that we are part of a dynamic, mutually interconnected whole.

As Daisaku Ikeda has written, an understanding of the interconnectedness of all life can lead to a more peaceful world:

"We're all human beings who, through some mystic bond, were born to share the same limited life span on this planet, a small green oasis in the vast universe. Why do we quarrel and victimize one another? If we could all keep the image of the vast heavens in mind, I believe that it would go a long way toward resolving conflicts and disputes. If our eyes are fixed on eternity, we come to realize that the conflicts of our little egos are really sad and unimportant."
[Courtesy July 1999 SGI Quarterly]


Interconnectedness of life that sustains our planet

On this planet Earth, there exist 1.75 million scientifically identified living forms. If you include yet-to-be identified organisms, 30 million different forms of life are believed to exist.  These figures include fungi and microorganisms, as well as animals and plants. Their lives and existence are interconnected with and dependant on each other. Human beings are part of this interconnection. 

However, this precarious balance of interconnection is falling apart, and the number of life forms going extinct is increasing at an alarming rate


Trees provide materials for houses; plants provide materials for clothes; and both animals and plants provide us with food. Life is supported by myriad of living things on Earth. The lives of those living things in turn are supported by other living things. Life on this planet is endlessly interconnected. Now the balance of those interconnections is on the verge of collapse.

Their lives and existence are interconnected with and dependent on each other. Human beings are part of this interconnection. However, this precarious balance of interconnection is falling apart, and the number of life forms going extinct is increasing at an alarming rate. 

It is an attempt to reexamine the current state of coexistence of human beings and other living things on Earth. 

"The Seven Days of Creation"

On the first day, God created, the heaven and the earth.
An eternal plan in motion, a new world of great worth!

By His word He separated, the darkness from the light.
That time would follow a pattern, He called it day and night.

The second day came. He commanded the waters to divide.
A beautiful skyline, where the firmament would reside.

And as He commanded. His clear voice was heard.
Dry land raised forth. And the day, was the third.

By the power of His word, the ground would take root.
Grass, herbs, and shrubbery, from seedling to fruit!

The beauty of colors, danced over meadows and hills.
The flowered landscapes embellished, vegetation there filled.

The fourth day came. God placed the sun and moon.
That seasons would flourish, and light would illume.

The fowls in the air, and the fish in the sea,
Every animal God created, on the fifth day would be.

The sixth day commenced. God's work not complete.
For man in His image, would be His last feat.

From the dust of the earth, He molded from clay.
His greatest creation, mortal man, there he lay!

The man God called Adam, who stood all alone.
He carefully took a rib, and formed woman from his bone.

Adam named her Eve, the Mother of us all.
To multiply and replenish, soon after the Fall.

The seventh day ushered in. Creation now smiled.
God declared it was good, and rested for awhile.