Contrary
to my previous blog, do we need men? yes we do!! If man was to disappear
from earth, women
would do remarkable well without having a male in their lives. In many
instances the woman has to do without a male, in any case. In the case of
divorce; being unmarried with children, and being a widow.
Women
have a love-hate relationship with their single status. They love the freedom,
flirting and no-strings-attached life that comes with flying solo, but they
dislike the absence of the comfort, constancy and companionship of the other
half.
Men,
generally speaking, tend to look for a mate to satisfy a sexual and an
emotional need. Women have less urgency in getting these particular needs
met from a man; Of course women want and need it also. Women's selection
priorities are more to do with the male partner's ability to physically provide
and protect her and their children.
Generally,
men’s needs have not changed, and men seem just as dependent upon women for sex
and emotional nourishment as ever. But these days women don’t have as much need
for protection and provision
Given
that women generally can support themselves in our modern society, why exactly
do they need men?
Men and
women are just as desperate, confused, lonely and needy as each other.
Women and men need each other equally. However, women need not show how
much they need men. Women need to know how much they are needed by the
men, and the men must let them know that they need them in their time of need.
Love - we need the love that
comes from a man. Our father figures had a large role to play in this; we
usually look for a man who is very similar to our own father. With the love of
a man we can conquer anything. A man makes us feel safe, powerful and wanted, amongst
many other things. Love is everything
Protect - We need men to protect us from the evil beings out in the world as well as the unknown we can't see, but, men can. We need them to be our eyes and ears when we are naive to experiences.
Provide- Men are natural providers and regardless of how much money a woman makes, where you may fail, man is more than willing to provide. It would be his pleasure. There are some tasks that women just cannot do without a man. Let him provide.
Protect - We need men to protect us from the evil beings out in the world as well as the unknown we can't see, but, men can. We need them to be our eyes and ears when we are naive to experiences.
Provide- Men are natural providers and regardless of how much money a woman makes, where you may fail, man is more than willing to provide. It would be his pleasure. There are some tasks that women just cannot do without a man. Let him provide.
Love-Making - Using a vibrator or the hand will never make a woman feel like a man can. The touch of his hands, the feel of his body. To hear him breath and feel his heartbeat. Sex between two people that really love each other is something so wonderful, sex will only get better with time, as each partners learns the likes and dislikes of each other.
Companionship - Having tons of friends is never the same thing as having your man, who is your best friend in the world also. You one you can watch movies, play cards, read, exercise, cook, wash dishes or just simply hold hands and look at the beautiful sunset together. Treasuring the silence and knowing he is always there for you and of cause ....... you are always there for him too.
Confidant - We confide in our man only and we trust only him. All our deepest emotions we share with him. He is the only one we are intimate with, and he is compassionate and understanding. Our man will be our confidant and he will never use it as ammunition to hurt us.
Guidance/ Leadership - Where one is strong the other can be weak; our man can be strong when we are weak. When our man is weak, we will be strong for him. We will have each other’s back. We need guidance in our lives ....Our man will be there to provide this. Were ever our man leads, we shall follow!
Emotional Stability - Women are extremely emotional and more than
often their decisions are driven by emotions and that can lead to making bad
decisions. Men are not driven by emotions, more so, logic and rationale. They
will assist us in maintaining our balance and behaving more rational.
Pro-Creation - We all know women can adopt or have the procedure called In Vitro Fertilization, but guess what, surrounding those situations is a man. We need men to impregnate or donate sperm if you will, so that we can bare off-springs, and leave our legacy behind.
Completion - Women don't need men to complete them, although they may be financially well off, mentally stable, or spiritually connected, women need men to connect the last chain. Women need men to complement their completeness. Women are single and alone until man compliments their completeness. Compliments her in her cycle of life, birth, child, teen, woman, spiritual soul mate, marriage or just a lifetime together.... Many women are spiritually complete without a man, but what better way to share the wholeness other than with the man you love and deserve to have.
My father
and mother had a wonderful relationship, I only wish that I am that lucky that
one day I will have what they had. Many of the family values are
disappearing, but many still hold on to them.
When a Woman Loves a Man
David Lehman, 1948
When she says margarita she means daiquiri.
When she says quixotic she means mercurial.
And when she says, “I’ll never speak to you again,"
she means, “Put your arms around me from behind
as I stand disconsolate at the window.”
He’s supposed to know that.
When a man loves a woman he is in New York and she is in
Virginia
or he is in Boston, writing, and she is in New York, reading,
or she is wearing a sweater and sunglasses in Balboa Park and he
is raking leaves in Ithaca
or he is driving to East Hampton and she is standing disconsolate
at the window overlooking the bay
where a regatta of many-colored sails is going on
while he is stuck in traffic on the Long Island Expressway.
When a woman loves a man it is one ten in the morning
she is asleep he is watching the ball scores and eating pretzels
drinking lemonade
and two hours later he wakes up and staggers into bed
where she remains asleep and very warm.
When she says tomorrow she means in three or four weeks.
When she says, “We’re talking about me now,"
he stops talking. Her best friend comes over and says,
“Did somebody die?”
When a woman loves a man, they have gone
to swim naked in the stream
on a glorious July day
with the sound of the waterfall like a chuckle
of water rushing over smooth rocks,
and there is nothing alien in the universe.
Ripe apples fall about them.
What else can they do but eat?
When he says, “Ours is a transitional era,"
“that’s very original of you," she replies,
dry as the martini he is sipping.
They fight all the time
It’s fun
What do I owe you?
Let’s start with an apology
Ok, I’m sorry, you dickhead.
A sign is held up saying “Laughter.”
It’s a silent picture.
“I’ve been fucked without a kiss," she says,
“and you can quote me on that,"
which sounds great in an English accent.
One year they broke up seven times and threatened to do it
another nine times.
When a woman loves a man, she wants him to meet her at the
airport in a foreign country with a jeep.
When a man loves a woman he’s there. He doesn’t complain that
she’s two hours late
and there’s nothing in the refrigerator.
When a woman loves a man, she wants to stay awake.
She’s like a child crying
at nightfall because she didn’t want the day to end.
When a man loves a woman, he watches her sleep, thinking:
as midnight to the moon is sleep to the beloved.
A thousand fireflies wink at him.
The frogs sound like the string section
of the orchestra warming up.
The stars dangle down like earrings the shape of grapes.
When she says margarita she means daiquiri.
When she says quixotic she means mercurial.
And when she says, “I’ll never speak to you again,"
she means, “Put your arms around me from behind
as I stand disconsolate at the window.”
He’s supposed to know that.
When a man loves a woman he is in New York and she is in
Virginia
or he is in Boston, writing, and she is in New York, reading,
or she is wearing a sweater and sunglasses in Balboa Park and he
is raking leaves in Ithaca
or he is driving to East Hampton and she is standing disconsolate
at the window overlooking the bay
where a regatta of many-colored sails is going on
while he is stuck in traffic on the Long Island Expressway.
When a woman loves a man it is one ten in the morning
she is asleep he is watching the ball scores and eating pretzels
drinking lemonade
and two hours later he wakes up and staggers into bed
where she remains asleep and very warm.
When she says tomorrow she means in three or four weeks.
When she says, “We’re talking about me now,"
he stops talking. Her best friend comes over and says,
“Did somebody die?”
When a woman loves a man, they have gone
to swim naked in the stream
on a glorious July day
with the sound of the waterfall like a chuckle
of water rushing over smooth rocks,
and there is nothing alien in the universe.
Ripe apples fall about them.
What else can they do but eat?
When he says, “Ours is a transitional era,"
“that’s very original of you," she replies,
dry as the martini he is sipping.
They fight all the time
It’s fun
What do I owe you?
Let’s start with an apology
Ok, I’m sorry, you dickhead.
A sign is held up saying “Laughter.”
It’s a silent picture.
“I’ve been fucked without a kiss," she says,
“and you can quote me on that,"
which sounds great in an English accent.
One year they broke up seven times and threatened to do it
another nine times.
When a woman loves a man, she wants him to meet her at the
airport in a foreign country with a jeep.
When a man loves a woman he’s there. He doesn’t complain that
she’s two hours late
and there’s nothing in the refrigerator.
When a woman loves a man, she wants to stay awake.
She’s like a child crying
at nightfall because she didn’t want the day to end.
When a man loves a woman, he watches her sleep, thinking:
as midnight to the moon is sleep to the beloved.
A thousand fireflies wink at him.
The frogs sound like the string section
of the orchestra warming up.
The stars dangle down like earrings the shape of grapes.
