Understanding Men

To understand men, women need to know what a man wants from a women
How do we even start understanding men? Or don't we? lol

According to the book by John Gray, Ph.D, Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.
About the book : Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus is the essential tool for couples who want to develop more satisfying relationships with their partners. John Gray provides a practical and proven way for men and women to communicate better by understanding and respecting the differences between them.

When it comes to relationships, most would agree that it's a constant battle of the sexes. Pretending that men and women are from different planets can help us to deal with the opposite sex in a loving and accepting way, leading ot better relationships. (seriously? you must be kidding me, lol, pretending we are from different planets?)

Throughout Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus, John shows how to diminish frustration and disappointment in relationships, and instead create intimacy and relate lovingly to the opposite sex, through a better understanding and accepting the differences between men and women.

John explains what it takes to have a successful relationship. He provides different scenarios from both the woman's and the man's point of view and offers advice on how to counteract differences in communication styles, emotional needs, and behavior patterns.

John realizes that "not only do men and women communicate differently, but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently." So, instead of discussing "why" men and women are different, he focuses on what those differences are and explains the ways men and women react to stress, what motivates them, and their emotional cycles and needs.


The truth it's much easier than that, understanding men is much easier than you think.

Don't pressure men for a commitment - The female in a relationship usually desire some sort of commitment sooner than the male. Women need to know how is that are placed in a relationship. She starts putting on pressure for the man to reveal his true feelings and intentions. The man does not like this and feels pressurized. Pressurizing the male is not only for making a commitment, but trying to make the man spend more time with the female and making more phones calls. This could be seen as a sign of insecurity or desperation, which is not appealing one bit, in the relationship. In fact, don't put pressure on a man for anything, honey when you going to take the garbage out? Honey when are you going to cut the lawn?


Men want to be taken care of  - This can range from a number of things, reminding him of a doctor appointment, spoiling him with his favourite dinner. Appreciating all the things he does, without having to nag him forever, by taken care of his ego. Men are sensitive creatures and understanding this. Men like to be told that they are missed when they go on a business trip for example. Men don't lack feelings, and it's these small things that women do that can make such a big difference.


Respect - The one thing that men really want in a relationship is respect. Men don't like woman that have taken over the relationship, in the case of the woman wearing the pants in the relationship. Men "love" a woman who is strong and assertive but know when to let the man lead. Woman taking control in the bedroom for a man this is a turn on. Woman trying to take control of everything, is a no no. Belittling a man will send him away very fast. It's import to understand what a man wants from a woman. Compliment men for his achievements and help and motivate him to achieve everything that he wants to do.

Communication - different ways.  Men and woman do not communicate in the same way!

Compliments are important, encourage him and support him.

Silence -  savor silence together, no need to have an heavy discussion about everything.  Just enjoy being together.  Silence after amazing sex, curled up in his arms, letting the sweat cool from the body, listening to him breath and hear his heart pump.  Men don't place the same emphasis on conversation.

Problems - men don't like discussing their problems, men like finding solutions, instead of going over the problem over and over, which never solves anything! 

Woman crying could freak him out, men generally don't cry, which is a bad thing.  Women will cry for just about anything under the sun, even when she is happy.  So a man will not have a lot of sympathy with the constant tap work been switched on and off.  Men are not been insensitive, they get frustrated because they hate problems and only want to find a solution and get it over and done with. 

Sorry - Men have other ways of saying they are sorry than just saying "sorry".  Two little words for a man to say is "I love you" and "I am sorry".  Woman need to hear the verbal apology right after a right after a fight and men don't.  Men will show that they are sorry, a woman hurt feelings needs to be fixed, and men take action. 

Not difficult is it? No pressure on a man, for whatever reason, taking care of him and showing you care, and above all else respect him!! Understanding the difference how a man and woman communicates.  Compliment your man! Women stop crying! Always putting him first and foremost above everything and everyone.  Excellent sex will not hurt, lol.