7 Types of Commitment Phobes

The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns. Commitment phobia is somethinge often and happens to both women and men. The key piece is fear. Fear of intimacy and deep emotional connection.




Men that have difficulty in committing have similar characteristics and ways of expressing their phobias. It can be very devastating to the woman who love them

The Unconscious Commitment Phobe
Its the most common phobia.  The guy believes that he wants commitment and love.  He becomes his worst enemy, sabotaging anything food that comes his way. What he does not realize is that perfection is impossible and while there are always other prospective love matches around the corner, they are usually no better or worse than the woman he has right in front of him.







The Conscious Commitment Phobe
He knows that he is putting on an act.  He really enjoys the woman that he is involved with. but he has not intentions of staying with.  He rather places his bet on the one that opens her lets first.  He knows that he is not fit to commit and remains single rather than making a chose.
 The conscious Commitment Phobe can sometimes be honest about his fears, making him respectable.







The Married Phobe

He loves the challenge of a chase.  He cheats on his wife.  Does not communicated with her and shuts her out.  He cannot look her directly in the eye.  The Married Phobe can drive his wife up a wall for years with his pushing, pulling, cheating, shutting down and walling off. Worse yet, on the other side of the Married Phobe is the "other woman," who waits for him to leave his wife, sometimes for decades. This guy simply can't commit to committing one way or another.






The Long Distance Phobe

He is good at long distance relationships.  They enjoy having two lives, one with you and the other with someone else who may be reading this. Never quite trusting his own inherent instincts and feelings, the Long Distance Phobe has difficulty with decision-making. Therefore, he would rather have two lives in case one doesn't work out or he gets bored. The woman who is far away is usually the secondary character in this guy's love life.  He either promises to visit or he wants her to visit him, but he rather keep the long distance relationship.



The Dating Site Phobe
After months of coercion from your friends to "get out there," you reluctantly sign up on the hippest new dating site, create a profile page and upload your cutest photo, all the while gripping a bottle of merlot. Swipe left, swipe right...it actually seems fun at first!
After a hot minute, an attractive man hits you up and comments on your eyes, hair or the fact that you have a cute little dog names Josh. Willing to look past his ridiculously perverse profile and the long drive, you holler back with a quick quip. You get along famously and things go from texting to sexting to questioning to disappearing.
After a few weeks, you pack up your imaginary children and wonder if this guy was married, a compulsive liar, an egomaniac or all of the above.

The Multi-Phobe
The Multi-Phobe is like the Don Juan of Commitment Phobes having a posse of women from which to choose. He is usually the one who never becomes "Facebook official." He will simply lie about why he keeps his status a secret saying, "it's silly" or "I don't want to hurt my ex's feelings." When a woman discovers that she has been involved with this type, she usually convinces herself that what they had was real and the others were simply secondary characters in their relationship. The truth is that the Multi-Phobe has a "no
 discrimination" policy and it's first come first serve.




The Instant Phobe
This guy is the one who is already mentally packing his bags right as he approaches you during last call. If we are aware, we can look back and see tiny snap shots of a faster than lightening affair off in the distance. This type of Commitment Phobe is like a bowl of sunshine. He is the one-night-stand from the bar, the guy you talked to the entire night at your best friend's wedding or the charming man you made out with in the bathroom at the club on Saturday night. Okay, so some of this was your fault.

No matter what type, walking away from the Commitment Phobe, is usually a wake up call for them.