You will know when the relationship is ended
You will know for some time that the relationship is coming
to an end and the foregone conclusion is the relationship will end if neither
of the people in the relationship wants to work at it. It’s fertile if only one in the relationship
is working at it.
Don’t overlook the signs.
They are warnings that the relationship is not on track anymore.
Here are 25 sure signs that the relationship is coming to an
end.
1. You no longer share the same interests that you
once did.
2. You tend to argue a lot over things that you’d
have brushed off in the past.
3. Or you refrain from arguing because you simply
don’t care enough to do so anymore.
4. The little things that once made them adorable
are now just irritating habits.
5. You feel you can no longer confide in them or
approach them with your fears.
6. You avoid letting them know how you feel about
the relationship for fear of an argument.
7. Your sex life is practically dead – and you’re
not bothered about it.
8. You are constantly asking yourself whether they
are ‘the one’,
9. You never spend time with each other and even
when you’re in the same room you’re disconnected.
10. When approached by an attractive person, you
‘forget’ to tell them you have a partner.
11. You’re frequently complaining about your
partner to friends and family.
12. The thought of being without them doesn’t
bother you.
13. You’re more focused on the time you’ve already
spent together than a future with them.
14. You often think about the ‘what ifs’.
15. You have questioned whether the grass is greener
outside of the relationship.
16. You enjoy time away from your partner more than
the time you spend with them.
17. You find yourself clashing with your partner
over the smallest things.
18. You no longer respect your partner or find them
interesting.
19. You’ve been becoming increasingly more aware of
your partner’s flaws – even if they weren’t there before.
20. You never invite your partner to events even
when there’s a +1 option.
21. When you do have sex, you find yourself having
to force yourself to enjoy it.
22. And if you do have sex, it’s more a chore than
an activity. You do it to convince yourself you’re still in an intimate
relationship.
23. You’re always giving your worst side to your
partner and your best side to everyone else – and you’re not bothered about
changing that.
24. You worry that without them you’re going to end
up alone, which is one of the main reasons you’re still in the relationship.
25. You know that deep down; your future isn’t with
them.
Relationships are different for everyone. For some the ending of a relationship comes
as a complete shock, even when there have been warnings. Trying to hold on to something that is dead
leads to terrible pain and rejection.
Some couples should never have gotten married. A shot gun wedding is the worst. The male feels he has to marry the woman that
he has gotten pregnant. This will always
hang over the couple head’s. It will be
brought up, time and time again, in arguments.
The male will feel resentment and hostility towards the female.
What happened to the old fashioned courtship? A man and woman date. They like each other and they take the
relationship to the next level. They
agree that they will not date anybody else.
Feelings grow and they decide, the next level, is the moving in
together. After a time, they in love,
they want to make it official and spend the rest of their lives together and
get married.
I am no expert in relationships. I have had several relationships in my
life. Relationships scare me to
death. I guess because I was hurt so
much in the past. I don’t do the
dangling of the carrot in front of my nose.
There I had a relationship. He is
so attentive, caring and loving and then the next thing it’s all gone. We date. We hold hands. We share everything together. The sex is not lacking. Everything an ideal relationship should
be. What was wrong? In my heart of heart, I know. He never loved me enough to make me a
permanent fixture in his life. That I
was loving more than he was.
To be honest some of those warning signs were
already there but I guess I thought we will work at it.
I was deluding myself.
Everyone wants to find their soul mate but what if
your soul mate is not a romantic partner?
I guess the one thing that people make a mistake
with is they look to their partner to make them complete. That does not work. One needs to be complete before one can be
with a partner.
Make your life as complete as possible, be happy
with who you are. Enjoy your life and if
it was meant to be – it will be.
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