Why we are not unique?

Why we are not unique

I been trying for a long time to get across in my blogs, that love is emotions and have nothing to do with all the words that people have for it.

I have been asked in the past, why do you love me; give me reasons why you love me.  I was stumped, how to explain how I am feeling, my emotions that are so strong, I feel I can barely breathe at times.

I have been trying to say that all the words that have been linked to love, it’s not about love.  It’s us becoming better people.  We become something that we are proud of.

We all need people.  We need people that support us.  We need people to listen to us.  We need people to give us comfort.  We need to be embraced. We need to cry.  We need to laugh.  We all lose our tempers once in a while.  We need acceptance.  We all make mistakes.  We all crave forgiveness.  As people we are good at blaming others.  We don’t take responsibilities for our actions or lack of actions.  We like to talk about others, behind their backs, and usually there is nothing good in it.  We really give encouragement and support.  Why is this?  Our way of life has put a spanner in our family structure.  Mom and Dad work, children don’t have their parents there anymore during the day for them.  Mom and Dad are tired from work, when they had a long day at work.

Cell phones are how most people communicate these days.  People are always on their cell phones.  At the hair dresser, at the movies, visiting friends and family, at the restaurant, at concerts, some people even take their cell phones with them when they go to the bathroom. 

Children are given more and more expensive gifts.  Play stations, x-boxes, and all things that make them not participate in family gatherings.  Families rarely do anything together these days.

It all starts when we are small.  We go to school and there it’s the popular people and everyone wants to be in that group.  They gang up together and usually make someone else life impossible.  Have you been a victim of these groups?  Nobody wants to be your friend as they scared they will be kicked out of this group?  I have.  Have you ever stood up for that person that your friends make fun out of? 

Most of us follow trends.  How we dress.  The hair styles that we choice.  In fact different periods in time can be recognised by the way people dressed and their hair styles.  We feel the same as most people.  We all want to find our soulmates.  Our emotions are very similar.

There is the trend to compete with the Jones who lives next door.  Live in a big house; drive a fancy car, and wearing expensive clothes and jewellery.  Wanting this and that and never been happy with what we have.

The music we listen to, the movies we watch and the books we read.  How many of us check to see what rating that any of those actually have.  If the rating is bad then we discard it.

How many people choice the friends based on how popular these people are?

With this world full of people, do you really think what you are going through is unique?

So many different things that people experience every day, there will be always someone that has experienced the same thing as you have.  How we each dealt with the situation we are in?  Did we deal with it or did we run away. 

Even our responses are same when others go through life experience, the death of a family member or even a friend.  What do we say?  I am sorry for you loss.  What is the required response?  Thank you.  I hate this, I hate why people need to say this.

How many people pretend to be something they are not? Scared of not been accept by all and being rejected.

Being unique is going against what society stands for.  Wear the clothes you like.  Enjoy doing the things that make you happy.  Make the friends you want to. Listen to the music you enjoy.  Thinking out of the box and actually thinking for one self.  Making choice based on what we like to do. Just being you …….. That is unique and very special.

I am a firm believer that each and every one of us must be made to feel very special.  We have come with the good and bad.  You can’t really care or even love someone if you can’t accept the whole package.  The packages that we come with, over time, has made us who we are.  Changing even a little of that means that we don’t accept that person.  Have goals, have hobbies, do some charity work. Be happy with who you are …………….

You are special, just remember this, always

Long, long ago God made a decision - a very important decision.  One that I'm really glad He made.   He made the decision to make you.  The same hands that made the stars made you.  The same hands that made the canyons made you.  The same hands that made the trees and the moon and the sun made you.  That's why you are so special.   God made you. He made you in a very special way. He made your eyes so they would twinkle.  He made your mouth so you could smile. He made your laugh so you could giggle.  God made you like no one else.  If you looked all over the world - in every city in every house - there would be no one else like you.  No one with your eyes, no one with your mouth, no one with your laugh.  You are very, very special.   And since you are so special, God wanted to put you in just the right home.    Where you would be warm when it's cold, where you'd be safe when you're afraid, where you'd have fun and learn about heaven.  So, after lots of looking for   just the right family, God sent you to me.  And I'm so glad he did. I'll never forget the first time I saw you.  Your eyes were closed, your fingers were curled in two little fists, your cheeks were puffy and round.  I knew if my heart God had sent someone very wonderful for me to take care of.  Your first night with me I heard every sound you made: I heard you gurgle, I heard you sniff, I heard your little lips smack.  I heard you cry when you wanted to eat, and I fed you.  You're bigger now and do more things.  You can walk and run.  You can play and talk.  You can eat and sing and look at books.  You're not a little baby any more. But as you grow and change, some things will stay the same.  I'll always love you.  I'll always hug you. I'll always be on your side.  And I want you to know that. just in case you ever wonder.  Remember I'm here for you.  On dark nights when you hear noises in your closet, call me.  When you see monsters in the shadows, call me.   On hard days when kids are mean and don't treat you like they should, come to me. If your grades are bad and your teacher is mad, come to me.  'cause I love you.   And I always will, just in case you ever wonder.  Most of all, I'll be here to teach you about God. He loves you.  He protects you. He and His angels are always watching over you.  And God wants me to make sure you know about heaven.  It's a wonderful place.  There are no tears there.  No monsters.  No mean people.   You never have to say "goodbye" or "good night" or "I'm hungry".  You never get cold or sick or afraid.  In heaven you are so close to God that He will hug you, just like I hug you.  It's going to be wonderful.   I will be there too, I promise.  We will be there together, forever.   Remember that. just in case you ever wonder.

~Written by: Max Lucado~