You will also know when the relationship never had a chance in the first place.
Again it's the letting go and moving on that is the hardest.
People don't mourne the relationship they actually had. They mourne the relationship they could of had. The ideals that we had in the beginning just never happened. We saw and made that person in something they really weren't.
Our minds only deal with the good things and the painful memories get put into boxes in the back of our minds.
Letting go of the anger. Sit back and think about what really happened. Not just on what the other person did but what you did as well.
Acceptance is very important in this process.
Anger can be healthy to some extend. It helps us come to terms that something in the relationship is not right and it makes us face this fact. The problem will anger on a long term bases will over shadow any new relationships in the future. It's stops us moving on and we have in reality given them this power over our lives. Forgiveness is then essential to our own emotional freedom.
People don't generally go around thinking on how to hurt another person. It's in our nature to think of our own well being first. In order to forgive them we need to understand this. We need to remember before they did things what we like about them. See what happened from their perspective. See them as a real living person and try and distance yourself from what they done. Don't take it as a personal insult on your character, just accept the fact people make mistakes and people come with flaws.
When a person comes in your life and loves you. This is a gift to treasure. Love is like a plant and can only thrive when certain conditions exists. There are so many things that must be there in order to thrive and to blossom in to something so wonderful, like a plant that's blooms. With holding our love can be more damaging in the long run. Some times that love has to be enough so we let them go, though it breaks our heart. We let them go because all we want is their happiness.
Love has the capabilities of envolving. There are many different types of love other than romantic love. Let your love change. When there is true love that love will go on forever. That person you will carry around with you for internally. Memories and how they touched your live and the changes that resulted from just knowing them.
Relationship that have gone wrong can makes us doubt our own truth worth. We can begin to hate and loath ourselves. We need to be able to love ourselves in order to move on. Not everything in this life was meant to be.
Believe in yourself that you deserve someone that loves you as a whole package, the good and the bad. Whom treats you right.
Stop with the self blame. The things you could or should not have done. These changes we will never will know if they would of made a difference.
Rather take it as a learning curve. From this learn your own weakness and recognise your own strengths. Change the bad and strengthen your strong.
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