Victims of Scams

Victims of Scams

The world is full of scammers.  We see so many every day.  It would be nice to believe our luck has turned, “if it’s too good to be true, then it’s usually not true.”  So many different types of scams, they end up taking everything from one.  Why is that, is it a type of mind control?  They target people that don't have normal emotional lives.  They target people that are insecure and need more from life.  Suicide seems the only alternative left for some of these people that have lost everything.  Leaving their families to find them, leaving their families to try and make sense on what has happened.

"If you play with fire, you're going to get burned"

Don’t trust blindly, do some investigating of your own.  Nobody gives anything away for nothing, there is usually a catch.

There are many people that become victims on scams.  Scamming does affect one on a deep mental level.  Scammer takes our ability to trust away.

Victims spend years trying to recover from these crimes.  They describe their victimization as a “psychological mugging” or “like being raped” and often experience the same loss of trust issues that victims of sexual assault experience.

Victims lose faith in the world and the system that was supposed to protect them for even if the perpetrators are caught and ordered to pay restitution,   many offenders use any means necessary to avoid paying, often liquidating   their assets and hiding them out of reach or declaring bankruptcy.

Victims (lose confidence in themselves and others for they) are left with no closure, a reality that generally impedes their financial and psychological.

Victims seemed to have lost their ability to discern, or had lost their ability to trust their discernment, regarding whom they could trust and who they couldn’t. So, they trusted no one which made it difficult to help them or get them to help themselves.

In addition to financial losses, the victims feel robbed of not only of their money, but also their security, their self-esteem and their dignity.

Many victims never come forth; a lot of victims do not come forward, they hide out of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and lack of trust and continue to suffer in silence.

Scams causes other emotional effects in their victims, they experience the following.

Guilt, self-blame, shame, depression, sense of violation, isolation (suffering in silence), 

social stigma (victim-blaming)

Dealing with being a victim 

If you have been a victim of scams, know it takes time to heal. Be gentle with yourself.

If you know someone who has been a victim of scams, be understanding. Share this information to let them know they are not alone, that their feelings are normal.

Let them know, if they are persistent enough, they can often get the perpetrators indicted and sentenced. This helps restore some feeling of control and self-esteem.

It is important for the scam victim to keep moving forward. While this is difficult, staying stuck in the victim further destroys self-esteem and the ability to recover.