Retaliation versus Revenge
Do people understand the differences between retaliation and revenge —
and more importantly, why should this matter?
There is a marked difference between these two concepts and people whose
moral code has not been developed enough to distinguish between retaliation and
revenge.
How do we define retaliation?
If a person feels the need to retaliate against someone else for a
wrong doing, this may mean less a focus on the “what,” but more focus on the
“why.” This is a more rational and reasonable thought process. Why did they do
this to me? Why did they shame me? Why did they pick on me? Why did they bully
me, etc.?
Someone seeking retaliation against a person who has done them wrong in
their eyes - making them feel “less than” – justifies their actions by
searching for the reason behind the injustice and is simply attempting to even
the balance by making the person feel the same way they felt.
What we mean by revenge
A person seeking revenge intends to do something even worse to the
person who wronged them: “If I can make them feel worse than I did, then I will
get them back better than they did me.” So in their eyes the reasoning is
justified because they are intensifying what was done to them.
What’s missing: Accountability?
However, the way a person processes this accountability is to remove
themselves from the equation of consequences because they did not start the
action taken against them. In their eyes the situation is out of their control
from the very start.
The concept of accountability is something we need to educate our
children from a very young age about. Who starts something does not dictate the
outcome. Each and every person is accountable for his or her own actions.
Parents must provide the necessary education and guidance to help their
children see things differently than what is seen through their own mind, so
they become responsible adults when they grow up.
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