Tuesday, 11 January 2022

Your purpose in life

 

Your purpose in life

It is essential to have a purpose in life. It gives you a reason to get up in the mornings.  Purpose can give one a sense off direction in ones life and give meaning to a life that would be utterly and totally boring and pointless.  It makes one more focused and gives us the ability to make and achieve goals that we want to set up for ourselves.  For some it is connected to work.  Where we get a lot of satisfaction in doing it. If you not happy in your job maybe it is time to find something else that you will enjoy doing. To some it is connected to family responsibilities.  To others is in their religion believes.  To some it would be all of the above.  I would say our purpose is our partner but I changed my mind.  We cannot depend on others to make us happy.  A relationship should start whereby both people are happy and as the relationship grows so does the shared happiness.  We are responsible for our own happiness as we are responsible for sorting out our own insecurities and lack of confidence.   With a purpose it will help us deal with our insecurities.  It will also boost our confidence.

In fact everything has a purpose.  Even a purpose has a purpose.  Everything that has happened to us and everything that will happen to us has a purpose.  Every heartbreak, every disappointment, every failure and every joy and success.  We need to learn from all of this and we need to put ourselves out there because if we don’t we will never experience how wonderful life is and experience the joy of being alive.

The purpose in a relationship is not to have someone that completes us but to have someone that shares our completeness.

In order to have completeness in ourselves first we need to connect with yourselves first.  Acknowledge the good and bad in oneself.  Work on the things that need to change.  Fight the depression and the loneliness. There are many ways to connect to whom we are and by doing so we come to know whom we are.  Without self awareness we will not able to make changes.  The things we need to change in order to become the person we want to be.  That is how we can complete ourselves.  Then we can connect to others.  Again as with everything these connections require work.  They require our attention, care and nurturing to grow into meaningful relationships.

Connections that are needed for a long term relationship.  The initial connection is the physical attraction which is really important. The emotional connection is been able to share everything with each other especially things that make you feel very vulnerable.  If you both can do this it shows that your relationship is heading in the right direction.  If not your relationship still needs time to grow. Again this type of connection takes time and effort.  The social connection.  Sharing interest.  Doing activities together and both really enjoy doing it.  Becoming friends. Connection where you find your are both on the same wave length.  The last connection is where you both feel that you are meant to be together.  The more connections that you have will result in you having a very successful relationship.

I use relationship as an example because  is what most people are looking for.  There are right and wrong reason to embark on a relationship.  For a relationship to succeed is to be complete before looking for that partner.  For a relationship to grow it entails a lot of hard work and that never stops.  It requires staying power through the bad times.

We are complete in ourselves. But sometimes it takes a life time for us to understand this. For every doubt that breeds in our own mind, we have a confident thought to balance it! There is light within all of us but sometimes we choose to see only the darkness. We are strong in ourselves but sometimes we choose weakness. Because at the end of the day to have felt sadness means we are capable of discovering happiness too!

Avijeet Das

 




 

 

 

 

 

 

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