How to deal constructively

This is a very difficult subject to address.  Everyone deals in a different way.  Some have better ways of dealing with things.  Then of course it’s what cards are dealt to us and how we make the best of any given situation.

Some people have it all, they smart, beautiful and successful and everything seems to fall in their laps. Other people have to continually fight to deal with every day ups and downs.

People are essential in a person life.  We are not meant to be alone. We need people in our lives.  There are always good people and bad people, not that bad people are bad, it’s just they can be toxic and difficult to deal with.  These people cause stress and their continually negativity could make it hard for us to deal.

Dealing with difficult people requires one to use emotional intelligence.  Emotional intelligence offers you as a person the stability to help you deal and cope.

Trying to please everyone is impossible.  Nor always meet all of their expectations.  I guess the trick is to rise above this and try and maintain some distance with people that expect too much.

Too many people make mountains out of nothing.  They go on and on.  Every situation that arises has a solution, the solution might not be apparent, but after giving some consideration to the problems, a solution will present itself, or someone else might offer the solution.   A person needs to deal with whatever complications and come up with a solution.

Knowing one’s own strength and weakness is very important.  Acknowledge one’s own limit.  Become more self-aware of your flaws and how to deal with it.  This self-awareness will help you deal with stress that arises from your limitations and flaws.

Life experience is the best teacher.  Problems not dealt with can give birth to other problems.  People that are willing to give others second chances learn how to protect themselves from the experience that they have learned from.  They say they forgive but will never forget.

Dealing with people that are full of criticisms and negativity, people don’t have to listen to these people, nor engage themselves in these conversations that will create tension and stir negative emotions.

People should avoid getting themselves in a verbal fight, there are those difficult people have the ability to just cause trouble.  Rather let it go.  You don’t have to respond to every negative emotion that people stir, rather walk away than take the bait.

Count ones blessing daily, enjoy your life, and be happy and content.  Seek joy from within oneself other than having to rely on others to give satisfaction and happiness.

People need a descent night sleep.  Enough sleep reduces stress levels, and it helps them keep them positive, creative and proactive for the next day.  It’s amazing what a good night of sleep does for one, sleep recharges a person.

Support system is very good to have.  Have people that admire you and support you through difficult times.  People that think more like you do.  People that don’t hold a grudges and when they forgive you, they really forgive you.  Sometimes they even show you where you have gone wrong.  This means that people must be open to communication, even if its things you don’t want to hear.  Honesty is very important in any given relationship.  Lies can do so much damage.

Don’t concentrate on things that out of your control rather focus on things that you can have an influence on.  Don’t get involved in other people’s complicated situation.  Don’t always think that everything is out of your control either.  Don’t just give up with up without evening trying first.

Forgiveness is a must, forgive yourself first, go easy on yourself, and forgive others.  Forgiveness does not mean that you have not forgotten, but compassion for others comes in handy to deal with these people after.  Everyone makes mistakes and if you let what they did, hang between you, in truth you have never really forgiven them, even though you have said that you “forgive”.

People must be able to distance themselves from stressful situation; again this is a hard task, for example; leave work at work and don’t bring home trouble to work either.  Once away from work concentrate on just enjoying time at home with family, friends, the children and the pets.  It’s very important to recharge in a friendly environment.

Life Is For Living

Submitted By: Cage

Life is a gift we're given each and every day. 

Dream about tomorrow, but live for today. 

To live a little, you've got to love a whole lot. 

Love turns the ordinary into the extraordinary. 

Life's a journey always worth taking. 

Take time to smell the roses... and tulips... 

and daffodils... and lilacs... and sunflowers... 

Count blessings like children count stars. 

The secret of a happy life isn't buried in a 

treasure chest... it lies within your heart. 

It's the little moments that make life big. 

Don't wait. Make memories today. 

Celebrate your life!

Author: Unknown