Thursday, 14 July 2016

The Miracle of Life and Death

The miracle of life and death

Death is not far from my mind.  When one is a child one never thinks of dying, one see the world through the eyes of a child.  There is no evil, there is no hatred, and life is not complicated. 

In loving memory of a very special person, who reached out and touched my life, who will I will never forget, who I will carry in my heart till I too depart from this earth.  I fear not death, I fear life.  Death will end sadness and misery and trials of life, it’s a new journey into the unknown.

Death teaches us certain things that we forget in our daily lives.  Too treasure and love the people in our lives even more.  Never hold a grudge and really forgive.  Not forgive once but countless times.

Born To Die


We are born to die.
Some of us live a full life.
Some,  only half a life.
Some, hardly a life at all.
We all come to a day that we fall.


But we have to make the most of it as much as we can;
because we could be here today
and gone tomorrow.
I'm working hard to make the most of it:
finding a place that I fit,
getting up when i stumble,
and walking right along.


I don't know who I am
but I'm learning everyday.
And maybe when it's my time,
I will know who I am
and what to say.
I will have made the most of it.
That's all that matters.
That's what we are born for, right?

The miracle of Death – by Paula Burchart

The miracle of birth is a common concept, but is not death a miracle in itself?

The only one thing that we can count on is our birth and ultimately our death.
What is being discussed here is not the tragic loss of a child or an accidental death. It is about the ability of a person whose body is ravaged by disease and beyond repair, to see going out of this world as great a miracle as it was coming in.
The end of life is viewed as a failure to live. Somewhere along the way, a war will be raged and we will all find ourselves caught in this fight for our lives. If we win, we live and if we die, we lose. Is that not what we have all been taught? Do we not go through life fearing that one day we will die? It is a subject that no one wants to talk about, especially when someone is approaching their last days on earth.
Marcus teaches a belief alternating exercise where he asks you to list the benefits of dying right now. When he suggests this to a room full of cancer patients, the response is less than positive. The avoidance of death is why they are here and it is not something they are willing to discuss. People are speechless and cannot come up with a single benefit. Marcus starts it off by telling them a few from his list. His number one benefit is to find out if what he believes about the afterlife is true. Then he goes on to tell about no more diets, eating whatever he wants and before long no one can resist weighing in. The energy in the room shifts and becomes noticeably lighter. People are agreeing and laughing and the list grows longer with comments of no more money worries and never having to talk to my mother-in-law again. Only when you have a list of the benefits of dying that equal the benefits of living, can you dissolve the belief that in the end you lose.
I believe that sometimes the suffering at the end of life is a result of the need to hang on.
A lifetime of unfulfilled dreams and regrets can defer one from the natural process of death. When you keep looking back and hoping for a do-over, you miss the beauty of what is happening in the here and now. I believe that death is similar to giving birth. During a natural birth, you get to a point where you can move past the pain. Sure, the pain is still evident but your focus shifts. You trust your body to do the work and you watch from a place of amazement.
As crazy as it may sound, aspire to the death you desire so that you can live your life beyond your wildest dreams. Is it really that easy? If I am mistaken, I will have a lifetime of happiness to reflect upon instead of a lifetime of misery. I am stacking the odds in my favour by cultivating life changing habits that will predict the end of my love story.

I am not an expert in living or an expert in dying. I do not advocate that you commit suicide or give up trying to heal. The purpose of this writing is to provoke thought and in return you may question whether everything is as black or white, good or bad, right or wrong as previously perceived. There are people who do not want to live. There are people who will do anything not to die. Healing is about the here and now. It is every choice you make and every thought you think. Watching someone suffering is extremely difficult and rattles you to your very core. Being present and witnessing a person’s last breathe, is a miracle and a gift.

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