The miracle of life and death
Death is not far from my mind. When one is a child one never thinks of
dying, one see the world through the eyes of a child. There is no evil, there is no hatred, and
life is not complicated.
In loving memory of a very special person,
who reached out and touched my life, who will I will never forget, who I will
carry in my heart till I too depart from this earth. I fear not death, I fear life. Death will end sadness and misery and trials
of life, it’s a new journey into the unknown.
Death teaches us certain things that we
forget in our daily lives. Too treasure
and love the people in our lives even more.
Never hold a grudge and really forgive.
Not forgive once but countless times.
Born To Die
We are born to die.
Some of us live a full life.
Some, only half a
life.
Some, hardly a life at all.
We all come to a day that we fall.
But we have to make the most of it as much as we can;
because we could be
here today
and gone tomorrow.
I'm working hard to make the most of
it:
finding a place that I fit,
getting up when i stumble,
and walking
right along.
I don't know who I am
but I'm learning everyday.
And maybe when it's my
time,
I will know who I am
and what to say.
I will have made the most
of it.
That's all that matters.
That's what we are born for,
right?
The miracle of Death – by Paula Burchart
The miracle
of birth is a common concept, but is not death a miracle in itself?
The only one
thing that we can count on is our birth and ultimately our death.
What is being discussed
here is not the tragic loss of a child or an accidental death. It is about the
ability of a person whose body is ravaged by disease and beyond repair, to see
going out of this world as great a miracle as it was coming in.
The end of life is
viewed as a failure to live. Somewhere along the way, a war will be raged and
we will all find ourselves caught in this fight for our lives. If we win, we
live and if we die, we lose. Is that not what we have all been taught? Do we
not go through life fearing that one day we will die? It is a subject that no
one wants to talk about, especially when someone is approaching their last days
on earth.
Marcus teaches a belief
alternating exercise where he asks you to list the benefits of dying right now.
When he suggests this to a room full of cancer patients, the response is less
than positive. The avoidance of death is why they are here and it is not
something they are willing to discuss. People are speechless and cannot come up
with a single benefit. Marcus starts it off by telling them a few from his
list. His number one benefit is to find out if what he believes about the
afterlife is true. Then he goes on to tell about no more diets, eating whatever
he wants and before long no one can resist weighing in. The energy in the room
shifts and becomes noticeably lighter. People are agreeing and laughing and the
list grows longer with comments of no more money worries and never having to
talk to my mother-in-law again. Only when you have a list of the benefits of
dying that equal the benefits of living, can you dissolve the belief that in
the end you lose.
I believe that sometimes
the suffering at the end of life is a result of the need to hang on.
A lifetime of
unfulfilled dreams and regrets can defer one from the natural process of death.
When you keep looking back and hoping for a do-over, you miss the beauty of
what is happening in the here and now. I believe that death is similar to
giving birth. During a natural birth, you get to a point where you can move
past the pain. Sure, the pain is still evident but your focus shifts. You trust
your body to do the work and you watch from a place of amazement.
As crazy as it may sound,
aspire to the death you desire so that you can live your life beyond your
wildest dreams. Is it really that easy? If I am mistaken, I will have a
lifetime of happiness to reflect upon instead of a lifetime of misery. I am
stacking the odds in my favour by cultivating life changing habits that will
predict the end of my love story.
I am not an expert in
living or an expert in dying. I do not advocate that you commit suicide or give
up trying to heal. The purpose of this writing is to provoke thought and in
return you may question whether everything is as black or white, good or bad,
right or wrong as previously perceived. There are people who do not want to
live. There are people who will do anything not to die. Healing is about the
here and now. It is every choice you make and every thought you think. Watching
someone suffering is extremely difficult and rattles you to your very core.
Being present and witnessing a person’s last breathe, is a miracle and a gift.
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